How To Be Attractive

Attraction, of course has lots of different elements to it and what one person finds attractive can vary from the next. However, out of all of the people I’ve studied, a common theme appears to run through all of them. Something that all the attractive people I’ve ever met seem to have. Something that has nothing to do with looks, age, gender, race or creed and that we all possess to a certain extent without even realizing it...

To explain what I mean, let me tell you about a sticking point I used to have that took me a long time to figure out...

About a year ago, while I was on the dating scene, I found myself in a rather peculiar situation. I found that I could attract plenty of attention from the opposite sex only with one small problem...

None of them were the ones I really wanted...

It was kind of weird. For some reason or another I could be attractive and create lots of opportunities with women that I wasn’t really that into but when it came to the ones that I did like I would turn into a stuttering wreck, come across all needy, stop being myself and completely blow it, time and time again...

Even more interesting was the fact that I had reached the stage where, when I was out with friends or at a party, I would only interact with the ones I wasn’t really attracted to and completely avoid the ones that did attract me. As if they were some kind of alien species...

So I decided to do some research. I asked as many people as I could, both male and female, about this irrational behaviour and, strangely enough, every one of them said at some level they could relate to it. I did some further research with people on dating sites and they said pretty much the same thing...

That they felt safe and at ease when they were talking to people they weren’t that attracted to (providing they weren’t some weirdo) but when it came to someone who really did it for them something bizarre came other them that stopped them being themselves and they would invariably blow it...

So I examined a bit closer this ‘bizarre thing’ that came over people (and of course myself) in these situations and found something really interesting.

I found that when people feel out of sorts, nervous or anxious around people they are really attracted to and are interested in it’s because they’ve bought into the illusion, the fabrication that they are of significantly lower worth and/or value than the person or people they are talking with...

They had bought into the whole ‘Oh my god because you’re so gorgeous that means I am not worthy’ myth.

Of course it’s not that they moped about all day feeling unworthy and of no value...Most of the time their (and my) sense of self worth and value remained intact until they met someone they were really attracted to and interested in then, all of a sudden, the illusion would kick in and they would start acting all strange and blow it...

I then did some research into relationships as well both successful and ones that had failed and the theme of worth and value cropped up again. Only, this time, in a slightly different way...

I found that when attraction and interest begins to fade in a relationship it’s because one or both of the partners stop seeing the other person’s worth and value to the relationship. Either they stopped believing in each other’s value, took it for granted or just got lazy and stopped contributing to each other’s lives...

That’s where the breakthrough came. The more I thought about it the more obvious it became. That a person’s level of attractiveness is directly related to the amount of value and worth they exude from the inside out...

This is, in my opinion, the single most important element when it comes to being attractive from the inside out...

To recognise your own internal sense of self worth and value and radiate it from within...

The more worth and value you exude from the inside out the more attractive you will be in or out of a relationship...

So it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship where the attraction has all but disappeared and you would like to re-ignite it or if you are single and struggling to attract the man or woman of your dreams, the solution remains the same...

You have to raise your internal sense of self worth and value...

And the really good thing is, it’s not even so much a question of starting this from scratch, no matter who you are you already have a huge untapped reservoir of self worth and value that you probably haven’t been giving yourself credit for up until now....

And what's even better is that you can learn how to do this quicker than you think...

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